Date: 8/7/2004 11:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 49348
Nice guys always do finish last sadly... If a girl see's you getting walked over by other people. Why would she wnat you?... Stand up for yaself, be vocal.. be male. :) im sure you will do fine. And with i love you like a brother stuff... isnt it better to have a lasting friendship or a short relationship. Look at your priorites, is it miss right now or miss right?  |
Date: 8/7/2004 11:48:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 54707
I'm sorry to say Corey that you are, in my opinion, wrong. For myself, being a nice guy, have done everything imaginable for my bestfriend for over 3 years. I've been there for her through everything, we know each other insdie and out. and I'm not being walked on by anybody. I satnd up formyself through everything. And yes, I have brought my feelings up to her for those who are wondering. I'm just simple wondering. Why the one who go by the rules lose and the cheaters win in this game.  |
Date: 8/7/2004 11:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 13546
Wow, this is a good post! Nice Guys do not always finish last, I should know, I hooked up with the nicest guy of them all. I did view him as a brother at one point, but it grew from there.. *smiles* HE is the right person for me, the guy I've always wanted. :)  |
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Date: 8/7/2004 11:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 49348
If they are happy with that Jerkbag.. who are you to judge |
Date: 8/8/2004 12:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
Sometimes people have the hardest time seeing what is right in front of them. I can honestly say though, I dated a guy for a little while we broke up because I did love him like a brother. I didnt want a romantic relationship with him, but I didnt want him out of my life either. He loved me enough to want to be just my friend and I loved him more for it. Nice guys dont always finish last, ask my hubby :) BTW maybe you should be directing your love to someone willing to love you back.  |
Date: 8/8/2004 1:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 26452
Although I get what you're saying,not all nice guys finish last. Girls are just stupid that way. They can never see that they have something good right in front of him. My curent boyfriend was just like that, always there for me, would do anything for me, only he was honest and told me my ex was a jerk lol. I finally saw what alot of girls dont, that I had everything I ever wanted right in front of me.  |
Date: 8/8/2004 4:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
Nice guys make the husbands for when all the not so nice guys have proved themselves the worthless creatures that they are.  |
Date: 8/8/2004 6:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 62338
I've been asking the same question for years and i still don't know the answer to that one..good luck...  |
Date: 8/8/2004 7:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 37101
I agree. -  |
Date: 8/8/2004 8:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 31765
I married one of those nice guys :)  |
Date: 8/8/2004 11:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 7574
I'm one of those stupid girls. I met a guy, and he was the second nicest guy I've ever met (Yes, I keep track). I would tell him everything, any of the crazy thoughts that came into my mind and he would not only listen, but he would understand. We would be in drama class and he would agree with all of my ideas and back me up on every stupid thing I did. After only a few months, we would finish each other's sentences and do synchronized things together without even realizing it. I didn't even realize how amazing he was until one day near the end of school, I was sitting in math class doing nothing and I decided to call my friend from Pennsylvania, where I used to live. She asked me if I met any exciting people and I started talking about him and I couldn't stop. I realized that I really liked him and it was a revelation to me. I never really thought about him in a romantic way, but then I realized he met every single qualification I wanted in a guy. That scared me, it really scared me. I never expected to find someone so close to what I defined as perfect. I have no idea why I was afraid of what I wanted. I knew that he was what I wanted, but it scared me to think that I had actually found it and therefore, I froze. Does that make sense? I wrote something for him on the last day of school, somewhat telling him how I felt, and I gave it to him. I don't even know if he read it or not, because he's since moved and I've never talked to him again. How's that for a happy ending? But if I could ever find a guy half of what he was I would be happy in my life. I was scared of happiness and I kick myself everyday for it. Sorry for rambling, if you want to talk, feel free to message me.  |
Date: 8/8/2004 11:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
You know what, I think you're absolutely right.  |
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Date: 8/8/2004 11:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
But for the record, nice guys always come first to me.. |
Date: 8/8/2004 3:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 60685
What can I say other than move on, you might be losing sight of many nice girls out there by hanging around one who obviously doesn't appreciate it what she has right in front of her. Nice guys finish last only because they allow themselves to.  |
Date: 8/8/2004 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 40899
and not just with girls, pretty much everything  |
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Date: 8/8/2004 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 40899
uh, yeah, nice guys do finish last. i know from experience |
Date: 8/9/2004 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 55967
A LOT to comment on this post. First, let me explain how the mind works, at least in one area. If you are interested in dating a girl, DON'T...and I mean DON'T try to be her psychiatrist. Now, I know you never said you did that, but a lot of "nice" guys will sit and listen to a girl go on and on about her problems, about some past guy or her family or friends, etc., etc. The thing is, the mind---everyone's mind---creates associations between two realities. That's why when you listen to certain songs, they strongly remind you of something. Or a smell. The mind makes associations. The girl will begin to associate you with her problems, even if you offer great remedies for them. Her doctor does the same thing. Now, if you just want to be friends, then fine. But NOT if you're romantically interested; that can be romantic suicide. Romance cannot allow the negatives of one's life into it, at first. Now, that's just one thing. Again, I know you didn't state that, but a lot of "nice" guys try to be the "listener." Romance has to be an escape from the drudges of life for the girl. Take her someplace different or exciting, and DO listen to what she's interested in. When she's with a guy, she wants it to be playful and fun, light-hearted. Not heavy or boring. Now, I hear what you said. Some girls mistake a "jerk" for being "playful, fun, light-hearted." I think that's the crux of it. Some girls haven't learned what a real jerk is until the jerk really jerks them around. See what I mean?  |
Date: 8/9/2004 11:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 13119
I have to go with Corey on this, alot of nice guys have no spine, as GypsyHawk said they are more like therapists then anything else. I want someone who will stand up to me and stand beside me, who will allow me to make my own mistakes and not molly-coddle me and tell me how perfect I am and how it must be the other persons fault. I have more respect for a man who is kind and conciderate but doesn't allow me to always vent on him. I don't need a therapist I need a partner.  |
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Date: 8/9/2004 11:57:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 54707
Ok, for Magoo and Corey. The thing is, with me, I definately have a spine. I'm there when she needs me, but I also tell her when she screws up. I'm a very blunt person. I tell it how it is. Because to me a friend isn't someone who tells the obvious. A friend is someone who makes you see what you don't want to see. They bring up the things that you don't want to be brought up. But they do it so that you can realize you're mistakes and learn and grow from them. When she does something stupid i let her know it. I don't sit there and join her pity parties and say, "Oh, it's not your fault, he's just a jerk." I say something to the sort of, "Yea, he's a jerk. But here's what you did. Here's where you screwed up too." I also don't think i have EVER called her perfect, the thought hasn't crossed my mind. Noone is perfect, everyone has faults and makes mistakes. |
