Date: 6/4/2007 10:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 16865
Woah! Those pictures are horrible! I'm so sorry this happened. When Jetamio died I held a LOT of guilt for her death. Maybe I didn't call soon enough. Maybe I should've XYZ. But the day of her funeral I collapsed in front of her casket and sobbed a grief I have never felt before and begged for forgiveness. I kept saying "I'm sorry. I am so sorry." Someone put their hands on my shoulder and I felt and heard someone breath. I thought it was Angie, but when I sat up there was no one there. I strongly think it was Jetamio saying it was okay. Although it took awhile to really FEEL it was okay. It's been a long road of healing. Reading this just makes me think of that.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 10:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 28848
Hugs Rhonda. I'm glad that your dad was able to find a little comfort from his experience.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 10:29:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21839
You are not to blame & I know why God sends his angels in our time of need. I believe that was her telling you it was not your fault. I know with Wayne's death, my family & Stacy have all felt guilt at some point, none of us were to blame but the drunk driver, I know Wayne was happy the night he was killed & we have peace knowing that in his last hours he spent with Stacy he was happy. Any one thing could have changed this, but he did what he wanted to do, he could have came to NC, but he chose to stay back & work, I don't know if it is God's plan or if the other driver altered it, but I know he is in no more physical pain and that he is watching over all of us.. We will see him again soon.. God bless.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 998
I'm sure the people that knew and loved Wayne will view these photo's, and sit in numb silence and grief. It's just unbelievable still that he was taken from all his family and friends. Even all these months later, I hardly know what to say because it is still so painful. George and I can't even bear to take Crash's name off our FAQ's page. Not sure if or when we will remove his name from our Admin team. I'm glad though that the angel came to your father. He needed to feel released from that guilt. Sugar Bear, your poem says so much, and I'm sure your dad and mom felt comfort from you. *Hugs*  |
Date: 6/4/2007 11:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 63302
god bless you....i know how it is to lose a dad!  |
Date: 6/4/2007 11:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 64414
(((luv n hugs)))  (  |
Date: 6/4/2007 11:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 28190
I am one of those that read this and sat in silence, numb and looking at the car, just staring. I miss Wayne so very very very much that it brings tears to my eyes right now. I'm so glad that your father got comfort, though. It wasn't his fault. If anyone is at fault it was the man that decided to drink and drive. I'm glad that God sent an angel to hold your father up, and I'm sure even now they are still around you all. *hugs*  |
Date: 6/4/2007 11:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 63194
These pictures are hard to comprehend.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 11:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 14780
He is so missed...Im just still stunned....  |
Date: 6/4/2007 12:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 64110
OMG that is so sad   |
Date: 6/4/2007 12:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
this is so sad....just out of courosity..did the other driver.."drunk driver" die in this crash?  |
Date: 6/4/2007 12:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 19586
Those pics are horrible. Thanks for sharing your beautiful words to comfort your dad.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 12:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
I am completely covered in goosebumps. Rhonda, there is not a doubt in my mind, that was an Angel that came to comfort your Dad. I believe that through-and-through. Your poem, is lovely. I *silence*, I cannot comment on the pictures.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 12:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 13969
No words....sorry.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 12:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 13546
All I can say is.. *HUGS*  |
Date: 6/4/2007 1:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 1334
I cant think of word to say. How devistating all of this must of and still continues to be for you and your family. ...  |
Date: 6/4/2007 1:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 8905
Wow....  |
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Date: 6/4/2007 1:46:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21839
Tweeti, the other driver is still alive, his legs & spleen were damaged but he lived.... that is all we know right now..I will post another post when we get all the info later... |
Date: 6/4/2007 2:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
Oh god.........  |
Date: 6/4/2007 2:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}  |
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Date: 6/4/2007 3:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 1334
I am sorry to bring up old feelings. I wasnt around when Crash was taken from us. When was his accident? Has the Drunk Driver served or will he serve anytime? what state are you from? In Cali if your blood alcohol is over a certain point it becomes murder and if it is under a certain point it is voulentary man slaugter. The in no longer an invoulintary for Drunk Driving. If this man has not served time I hope he does, again I am sorry to ask these questions. ... |
Date: 6/4/2007 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 27403
Wow! That is an amazing piece of peotry, SugarBear! His memory will always be alive. And I am so glad that his Dad was visited by that angel. I know it helped a lot! Love and Light  |
Date: 6/4/2007 4:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 64389
Again Missy you did it again you said it all in this one and it is still so painful and I cry almost everyday. I will never get over loseing Wayne like the rest of you. I love you so much always remeber that!Like the old saying if teardrops were pennies and heartaches were gold we would be the riches people in the world.The pain will stop for me when I 'am with you all in heaven.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 5:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 64240
wow i'm just shocked  |
Date: 6/4/2007 5:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 29532
Oh my lord........  |
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Date: 6/4/2007 5:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
"I will never get over loseing Wayne like the rest of you" ....I take great offense to that. |
Date: 6/4/2007 5:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 15394
wow so so shocking... and maybe she meant, I'll never get over losing him, just like the rest of you won't get over it... just a though...  |
Date: 6/4/2007 6:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 11251
***Hugs***  |
Date: 6/4/2007 6:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 34663
This is a very beautiful post and a wonderful poem as well, thank you for sharing this  |
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Date: 6/4/2007 6:46:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21839
Emi, that is my mom that made that comment, she didn't mean anything negative or try to take away from anyone at USM. She knows what USM meant to Wayne & alot of people here. she is saying that she will never get over losing Wayne like the rest of us, she is agreeing with the comments here, that is her son & she is going to take it hard. Her & Wayne were very close. she is not trying to offend anyone please don't take it the wrong way.. *hugs* |
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Date: 6/4/2007 7:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
Oh my .. Lil Sis Emi, you did take that completely wrong. Wayne's mom IS just like us in that way .. none of us will ever get over this tragedy. *Hugs* Lil Sis .. very emotional isn't this |
Date: 6/4/2007 9:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 4887
*hugs*  |
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Date: 6/4/2007 9:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
Yes, I know that now, and I apologize. It came off sounding like we didn't have to do as much to get over his death, and I got upset. The post itself upset me. Seeing his car is just... surreal... it's hard to handle. Forgive me, Scooby. |
Date: 6/4/2007 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 64160
Oho, when I saw the pitchers my heart just sunk in I am so thankfull I had the oppurtunity to be in chat with him the night he left for heavan. ~GODBLESS~ ~HUGS~  |
Date: 6/4/2007 9:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 26733
I cant still cant believe hes gone. I've been on usm for many years and I had the pleasure of talking to some of the people that have past on from this site...even though i didnt know them in life i feel sad...shakes my 'soul'. My thoughts are with you and the family. Angels do take human form in this world to deal with problems and to comfort us...you guys will be reunited...keep that in mind. Take care, Matt aka  |
Date: 6/4/2007 9:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 27161
this DID not happen, i swear it did not! i will not belive it did!! i cannot belive it did..
sorry im still not able to get over the fact hes gone really i cannot!
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Date: 6/4/2007 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 11199
Sugar BEar, that is a beautiful poem. sad and tragic yet full of the joy promised us in heaven when we all reunite. I still am working on getting over not seeing wayne. just going into chat has been hard. i still feel his presence there. I know that it is twice as bad for your family. hugs for all of you. by looking at the pictures it is hard to believe that the other guy survived. i know its not my place to judge but i wish that the other driver could be filled with all the pain that he caused all of you and all of us. I know Crash would never have wanted us to feel that way. But it is part of the grieving process. i think i am finally to the point were i can come into chat without crying. but come in with joy knowing that crash is watching and having a ball with us in his own way.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 10:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
I could only stand enough to skim through the photos and the rest of the post. Crash and I never really sat and chatted- only a little in the chatroom- but he was always around if I wanted to talk and I was beginning to really look for his tag when I popped into chat- just around the time he died. I think it's easier for me to deal with it because I don't have to face it from day to day. I can't imagine what you and your family are going through. I am still so sorry.  |
Date: 6/4/2007 10:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
Cries & hugs that's all I can say!  |
Date: 6/4/2007 10:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 40979
I refuse to look at those pictures  |
Date: 6/4/2007 10:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 12862
I'm so glad an angel came to comfort your dad. That was so awesome. I can't say a thing about those photos. I just sat here starring at them. I can't believe he's gone either. Such a wonderful and beautiful poem for your dad. My heart still goes out to you all. I still don't understand why your brother and my daughter were taken so soon. They had alot of life in them still. You brother still had to be a daddy yet and my daughter had to finish bringing joy to other. Loving hugs,  |
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Date: 6/4/2007 11:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 8905
It took me all day but I can finally look at this and not cry. I miss him so much, just like the rest of us. I remember the way he used to make fun of me in chat, just messing with me, but I never took offense to it with him. I always knew he was just kidding ya know? It never felt hurtful. He would always make me laugh on a crummy day and make it seem that my problems werent so bad. What really gets me is that the jerk that hit him is alive. I hate that about drunk driving accidents. Its always the sober people that die, and the drunk idiot that caused the wreck lives simply because there was so much alcohol in his system that his body was completely fluid, wereas the sober person tensed up. Sorry.... I was starting to rant, and that wasnt what I wanted to do. Thank you for this post sugarbear. It gives a lot of us a bit of closure to see waynes truck. As morbid as that sounds its true for me at least. And you are right. he is watching all of us, and just waiting in USM heaven with TwoSpirit, Frankenstien, and all the others for the rest of us to get there. *hugs* |
Date: 6/4/2007 11:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 62983
I'm so sorry for your loss Sugar Bear. I didn't know Crash well, but I chatted with him on a few occasions and found him to be a warm caring person. These pictures just tear at my heart.  |
Date: 6/5/2007 12:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 63241
My heart aches for you & your family right now. I know my words are inadequate in saying the right thing but know that I'm praying for all of you right now and believe God is with you. I met Crash early one morning when I first joined USM and was looking for someone to talk to. He talked to me for awhile and he made me feel like we had been friends for a long time. He made me feel welcome and I never forgot it. I believe he's watching over those he loves also. Your poem is beautiful; the tears are flowing. Jesus said, "Blessed be those who mourn for they shall be comforted".  |
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Date: 6/5/2007 2:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 1799
Why does this post keep taking my breath away? I don't know why I keep looking... it hurts more each time. |
Date: 6/5/2007 2:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
I have been to this post several times just trying to "wrap my brain" around the fact that Wayne occupied that ^ ... I have finally gotten to the point that I can reply .... I know the pain and anguish you have all suffered and are still suffering, I am glad though that your Dad NOW realizes that it is NOT his fault, the ONLY fault here is the drunk driver!! We ALL miss Wayne, he was a very special member here on USM, and one that will be remembered forever... Posting these pictures, although they look horrible, may help people actually SEE what can happen in an alcohol related accident.... I think you have done a huge service, especially to some of our younger members who dont realize that even thought THEY are doing the right thing, the person coming AT them may not be... thank you for that!! My thoughts and my prayers are with your entire family and extended family and I pray that your grief soon turns to the happy, loving memories of Wayne that always manages to come into our brains after the death of a loved one... This is one good form of therapy for you and your family too... TALKING about it, LOOKING at it, ACCEPTING it.. that does indeed help get to the point of the GOOD memories... I am here for you if you ever need to talk!!!  |
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Date: 6/5/2007 6:38:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21839
I started reading the responses this morning & couldn't make it through without crying my eyes out. I know Wayne was loved so much, he loved USM & everyone here...I love reading the stories everyone has to tell about Wayne & I know when Ronnie (his son) gets older, he will be able to read all the wonderful things about his daddy he never got to know. I know this is part of the healing process but I know the pain will never end until we see him again. Thank you USM, you guys are a blessing. Thank you for making Wayne's time on earth a blessed one & for being here for my family in our time of need. We love you more than words can say.... |
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Date: 6/5/2007 7:24:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21839
Gail the words you speak are so true... Wayne was innocent in all this.. he didn't have a chance to even react from what we were told, he was coming out of a curve & the other guy was weaving.. There was no where Wayne could go other than down an embankment, the other driver had flat land, he bounced off Wayne's truck & went to flat land, Wayne flipped & went down the embankment, we are not sure if he rolled or slid down, but his truck was upside down facing the way he just came from... |
Date: 6/5/2007 8:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 16845
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Date: 6/5/2007 10:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 1799
I will never be able to forgive that driver... he's a murderer... |
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Date: 6/5/2007 10:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 64110
Not trying to be rude here, but in my opinion Wayne's death could not possibly be as hard on any of us as it is on Ronda and Scooby. She gave birth to him and he was was Ronda's brother. There is no pain in this world like losing a child. |
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Date: 6/5/2007 12:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
Jslin, I have 3 kids and 4 grandsons, and there just are not words to describe what I could even IMAGINE I would feel if something were to happen to one of them... but looking over the replies, and re-reading them, I don't think anyone is trying to say that they are hurt worse then Mom and Sis... I think most of us just want Mom and Sis to KNOW that we HURT over Wayne's death too, and that we are here for them, no matter what. I think ANYONE who knew Wayne all these years all loved him, and when ANYONE that people love dies, others FEEL it... yes, not as strong as the family, but I think the family comes here knowing that their son, their brother and their loved one was LOVED on this site, and that it helps them just to KNOW that there are so many of us who are right there ready to offer virtual hugs, and words of comfort... SugarBear and I have talked in Profile a few times, and she KNOWS how I feel and WHERE I am coming from..... I personally think that this form of therapy on this post is a good idea for everyone who knew and loved Wayne... I think everyone can learn a lesson from this, and what more would Wayne want in his life, but for the masses to LEARN from him!!! As always, my thoughts and Prayers go out to each and every family member, and friend, and anyone on here who had a friendship with him, and anyone on here who actually loved him (as most of us did)... |
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Date: 6/5/2007 12:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 8905
Im with you Emi. |
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Date: 6/5/2007 1:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21839
I could never image the pain my parents are going through losing their only son, my sister is having a hard time, but those 3 are dealing with the insurance, the burial, visiting his grave, waiting to hear from the attorneys, and everything that goes with closing out the custody, trial & everything else.. I am in NC & they are in AL. I know that Wayne loved USM & the people here & they loved him.. I don't want to take away anything from anyone...we all have our own memories, I am not going to let his memory die, Gail, I agree if this post saves one person from doing this, Wayne's life was not in vain. I pray we all find the peace we need to deal with this & the loss of all the other USMers here.. the most important thing we can do is keep their memory alive, they walk the halls of USM, watching over all of us. Thank you everyone.. |
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Date: 6/5/2007 2:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21839
Emi, I know how you feel, my sister is carring alot of hate, I know it will go away with time, it is still so new... I have forgiven the man who killed Wayne, but I do agree he is a murdered because this could have been avoided. It take so much time & energy to carry hate, we have all did stupid things, ours probably didn't end up like this, we were lucky, he has to live with that every day of his life & if it doesn't bother him, I am sure it bothers his parents, he has to meet his maker one day & answer to him.. life is to short to hold grudges & hold anger.. I think in time the forgiveness will come, I know Wayne is in a better place & he is not in pain anymore.. I can see him in heaven asking why we are fussing over him. love & prayers... |
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Date: 6/5/2007 2:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 64389
Hi everyone, my comment on this poem was ment for Ronda aka sugar Bear what i said was not get over loseing wayne just like the rest of my family wouldn't. As far as how anyone else feels I wouldn't know but I would guess the rest of USM who knew and Loved Wayne still hurt too and will not get over it. I'am so sorry if I affended anyone like I said I commented to Sugar Bear and our family's feelings only. I would never hurt anyone or comment on their feelings again I 'am sorry |
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Date: 6/5/2007 2:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 64389
I hope and pray no one is offended by my comments to my daughter. My comments by no means are ment tosay anyone elses feelings are not still there or that they are any less then what they are.I should have worded it a different way but there are days when I don't even know what day it is or how I will ever make it without Wayne not being with us. again sorry. |
Date: 6/5/2007 3:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 21266
oh god..  |
Date: 6/5/2007 3:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 11341
I have been to this post several times and am still at a loss for words. I truely do not know what to say  |
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Date: 6/5/2007 3:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 64441
Pretty Momma pretty |
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Date: 6/5/2007 4:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
Ya know... There are a lot of us here on USM that loved Wayne for who Wayne was!!! He had his little "rebel" side to him, and he had his witty side, and he had his serious side... I have had the pleasure of seeing all those sides, but I think the proudest he ever was on this site, was when George and Ginger made him an Admin... THAT was when I could see that he geniuelly (SP?) KNEW he was part of all our lives!!!!! ..... Wayne was so special, and there are so many on here who really and truly cared about him... but I have to say, dealing with knowing people on here and actually MEETING them face to face has its difference.... I know in my heart of hearts that EVERYONE who knew Wayne, his family, his friends, his extended family, his loves... the dear people who were physically there for him at one time or another in his life feels the sting stronger than the rest of us can imagine.... .... ..... As much as his death pains me, I can only IMAGINE what it has done to the one's in his REAL LIFE.... Somehow or another, I would give anything just to give SugarBear and ScoobyLu a huge hub right now, and Stacie too... and everyone else who still, after all this time, feels the heartache!!!! Someday soon, we shall remember the good... the good memories will outshine the bad ones... and we can actually talk about him and his antics here on the site... like we do about Karen and Linda and Frankenstein and everyone else who has left us for their Higher Being.... SugarBear... My thoughts, my hugggggsss, my Prayers are still with all you family members, and with all the friends, and with the budding relationship with Stacie... ALL of you guys are right here... in my heart, and in the VERY heart of USM! |
Date: 6/5/2007 5:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 12581
My God, this post is heartwrenching. I miss Wayne so much. *HUGS* I was with Enchantress when we heard & we both were very upset. *HUGS* I am with DMK on this one, I am simply at a loss for words *HUGS* Take Care  |
Date: 6/5/2007 5:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 31531
Sorry for your lost.The Angel came in a time of great need.I am glad that it happen that day.That is the most beautiful poem that I have ever read.Thank you for sharing your post with us .BIG HUGS to you and your family  |
Date: 6/5/2007 7:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 49101
Those pictures are terrifying.  |
Date: 6/5/2007 8:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 3321
Oh my gosh...  |
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Date: 6/5/2007 8:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 64389
Hi everyone I just want to say thank you to everyone who loved and made wayne feel like USM was his second home.I know so many of you really loved and cared for Crash.To watch ans help raise has given me back a little bit of Crash. Ronnie looks just like his Dad at the same age.I feel so Blessed to have Ronnie and the rest of my family and of course all as friends. I pray God Blesses you all greatly. thank you all for helping us through this. Hugs and Love |
Date: 6/5/2007 9:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 14314
((((Big Hugs))))  |
Date: 6/6/2007 6:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 64398
i am so sorry about your brothers death those pics are scary but the poem it was beautiful  |
Date: 6/6/2007 8:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 8024
I just logged on .. loos lke he never saw it coming.. I often sit and wonder about my old buddy wayne..sighs.. pictures are very tough to look @ knowing wayne was in there.. I really miss him I can only imagine how his other friends and family must feel.. I really liked the poem .. I hope you and your family continue to heal .. No matter what happens just remember God loves us all ..c  |
Date: 6/15/2007 10:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 56176
huggs  |
Date: 6/20/2007 11:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
Sugar bear I keep coming back to this post and I never know the words to say except {hugs}  |
Date: 6/25/2007 9:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 16671
I agree with you sweetie because God tells us that there is a great cloud of witnesess looking down on us and I do believe that Wayne is one of them. Thanks for sharing your beautiful poem with us.  |
Date: 7/7/2007 11:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 61013
Oh goodness. I can't believe I missed this post. Those pictures are absolutely horrible. if you ever need someone to talk to or anything i'm right here   ugs:  |
Date: 3/6/2008 8:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 14175
that's a beautiful poem I pray you'll be together again someday  |
Date: 3/25/2008 8:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I just wanted to say that I am sorry that I am late in replying to Your post., such a beautiful heartfelt touching poem., such a tragic loss., No One truly knows our pain, our sorrow as Jesus does, allow Him to comfort you, bringing You peace surrounding you in His Love....My Deepest Sympathy and Prayers....Take/Care  |
