Date: 7/4/2008 8:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
Yep, not respond. Why lower yourself to their level. Then, like you, I would've probably come here to vent.  |
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Date: 7/4/2008 8:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
Oh, sorry that you had to endure that. Like my post of yesterday, why do we have to insult and hurt others over the net or otherwise? |
Date: 7/4/2008 8:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
personally I would forward it to my friend, with an enemy like that they should be aware. Or I would kick butt.  |
Date: 7/4/2008 8:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 15677
i would have done what you did whay bother and waste your time  |
Date: 7/4/2008 9:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Like I said, my first reaction was to react, but I believe this is what that person wants...if we were face to face, I'm sure it would be all I could do to keep from kicking butt, and I may not be able to contain myself.  |
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Date: 7/4/2008 9:10:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Magoo, my friend is already aware. Certainly, this other person is no friend. Said person contacted me, initially, under the guise of friendship, but I'm a little smarter than that. I know when people are out to get info...and that's all this person wanted. I made it a point of not telling anything that could be used as ammunition. |
Date: 7/4/2008 9:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 36901
Honestly, I'm not sure what I would do. Sounds like you made the right decision.  |
Date: 7/4/2008 10:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
Sadly enough Nani, this has happened all too often here at USM. My initial reaction is the same as Magoo's. But that would give this person who is trying to start drama, some validation. Being ignored is what this person deserves.  |
Date: 7/4/2008 10:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 64497
I think I would honestly want to react, but I would leave and go find something to calm me down. Once I was thinking right I think I would either forward it to my friend or just ignore it. My first reaction would be to send them a nasty email back though.  |
Date: 7/4/2008 10:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 13546
I think you did the right thing Nani. Sometimes the reaction is all they really want. I'm not sure what I would do, I would like to say I would not respond, but it depends on my mood. *hugs*  |
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Date: 7/5/2008 12:31:00 AM ( Admin )
Sometimes, nothing you do will help. Everything is taken out of context and used against you. So, often it's best to just let them be. |
Date: 7/5/2008 2:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
Little minds need little or no responses sweetie....sorry this happened to you...  |
Date: 7/5/2008 4:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
but... THIS is a response. You let them know they crawled under your skin, gave them the power they were seeking by posting anything about the situation. It clearly shows you are upset with whatever the actions were. I would have chosen to TOTALLY ignore said idiot.  |
Date: 7/5/2008 4:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 48809
What a shame something like this is Nani. I always wonder why some people seem to enjoy tearing others apart.... do they think there isn't enough trouble in the world? I would do what you did and totally ignore this negative person who is trying to bring more darkness into the world.  |
Date: 7/5/2008 4:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 27414
Oh, I would respond but not to negatively react but to bring your disgust to the person responsible. After all, how are they going to know it's distasteful if no one informs them?  |
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Date: 7/5/2008 5:07:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Thank you all for your responses. Not reacting is the best thing. Mercury, I struggled with that thought process for quite awhile. I handled it the way it should be handled, and like I said I made this post because said person is in the rafters looking in, monitoring everything I do. So, it was pretty much a statement that I'm not going to quit posting or making replies, or even watching what I say, because I can't be intimidated by anyone, and I'm just not going to let anyone control me. |
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Date: 7/5/2008 5:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 26303
Someone actually wants you to stop replying and posting? I'm confused, why on earth would they want that? I know you aren't going to answer that question, I don't expect you to. It's just a general why? I hope this said person finds something happy in their life. Maybe they are just having a really bad time of it, or are still too young to realise that it's not the done thing. |
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Date: 7/5/2008 5:21:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Aussie Girl, sometimes people get it in their heads that no matter how nasty they are, or how ugly they get, they are right. Said person would love to see me running scared, but I'm not scared. I do, however, know that escalation is what this person is about...Drama, Drama, Drama, and doesn't realize how ridiculous said person looks. I have spoken with said person over the phone, and couldn't handle it because said person can't tell the truth. Nothing but lies, lies, and more lies....repeatedly! |
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Date: 7/5/2008 5:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
totally understandable ;o) |
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Date: 7/5/2008 5:45:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Mercury, thank you. HUGS |
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Date: 7/5/2008 5:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
LOL A/O! I'm not even going to go there...LOL! But, I won't say the thought didn't tickle a nerve...LOL |
Date: 7/5/2008 11:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 5301
...I know someone just like that Nani. This person has a bipolar personality and when the moonshine sippin' begins, LOOK OUT!  |
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Date: 7/5/2008 12:09:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
...the person to whom I refer isn't bipolar... |
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Date: 7/5/2008 12:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
"....because said person is in the rafters looking in, monitoring everything I do..". O.K.-that is creepy. This post let's that person know you are calling them on their drama, and that you will not tolerate it anymore. I am sorry you were subjected to this garbage. |
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Date: 7/5/2008 12:57:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Thank you, SC-Sis. HUGS |
Date: 7/5/2008 3:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 4995
Nani,do I need to go hit someone with a two by four? Be glad to do it for ya...*hugs*  |
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Date: 7/5/2008 5:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
LOL! Celtic Princess, it's not worth the trouble you would get into...but thank you for the offer. Can I have a raincheck? |
Date: 7/6/2008 12:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 16671
I would just let them know that this person is my friend and that I can have two friends even if they don't like each other. They don't have to like each other to both be my friend.  |
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Date: 7/6/2008 9:35:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Believe me, Firstborn, if this person was a friend, or was ever a friend, it wouldn't bother me...I would be more inclined to try to mediate. But said person is not a friend, and never was. The hand of friendship proffered was deceitful, and only to gain information to be used against other party. I'm not stupid. I know a venomous snake when I see one and I give it a wide berth. |
Date: 7/7/2008 6:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 64414
Nani...I am so glad that you are taking this person for what they are...nothing!! You did the right thing by not responding! I would like to say this...since the offending person is possibly reading from the rafters...Nani is my friend, and a wonderful USMer that I look forward to "reading" on a daily basis...if you try to push her out, you just may find yourself on the outside looking in!  |
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Date: 7/7/2008 6:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Awwwwwwwwwwww, ReeRun...that was just sooooo sweet. Thank you, Hunny!!! You are a real sweetheart. HUGS |
Date: 7/7/2008 2:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 56359
Nani, I think you did the right thing. I may have wanted to react, but in a calm way. We all think your wonderful Nani! Great BIG *HUGS*  |
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Date: 7/7/2008 2:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 56359
Right ON! ReeRun :D Oh, and Nani... SMILE!!!! Thank you :)h |
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Date: 7/7/2008 5:55:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Thank you Shawn! That was very special. You are a real sweetheart, too. HUGS and SMILING! :) |
Date: 7/14/2008 5:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 11199
you have to pick your battles and decide which battle is worth fighting over. fighting with someone who is small minded is ridiculous. there is no way you can change their minds.  |
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Date: 7/14/2008 5:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
You are absolutely right about that, Dream Web Weaver...I still haven't responded to that email...and I won't. I have since learned it was just bait for an escalation, anyway. HUGS |
Date: 7/18/2008 7:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 28363
and you are wise beyond your ears for making that decision. thank you for sharing dear one  |
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Date: 7/20/2008 11:17:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
One of my favorite 'drop the jaw and walk-off' parting quotes in the distant past was '...I've learned in this life there are 3 things one can never argue with, and that's Idiots, Infants, and Ignorance, and you seem to have cornered the market in all three' That was in my distant past. As I have grown to know what love is, and how it changes the heart, I try to deal with people who chap my you know what in a more effective way than attacking them. It's nice to know that there are so many USMers who have more love in their hearts than a need for retaliation. That makes me smile. HUGS |
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Date: 8/16/2008 11:59:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
You are so right about that. HUGS |
Date: 8/16/2008 11:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 54444
sometimes the loudest response is to not repong  |
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Date: 8/16/2008 12:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
(I am so proud of you Sis)<--just wanted to say that. {{{hugs}}}} |
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Date: 8/16/2008 12:26:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64365
Aw Sc-Sis...that means a lot to me. You are awesome and I admire you so much. HUGS |
Date: 8/16/2008 1:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 44960
Oh what the heck!!... Strike up the band!! :) *Spirit*  |
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Date: 8/16/2008 1:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 44960
Comment #50!! Just Couldn't Resist!! :) *Spirit* |
