Date: 7/4/2008 11:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
She is feeling very insecure. I would hazard a guess that she doesn't feel loved by her father, or perhaps even her mother. That she is clingy cos she is looking for that unconditional love. Could I be close to the money?  |
Date: 7/4/2008 11:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 14909
I don't get people like that either I never have.  |
Date: 7/4/2008 11:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
I think you are very close. She doesn't really feel love from her mother or father, but she takes being clingy to a ridiculous new level (or so I think, I could be too harsh on her). I think that part of the solution for her insecurity would be to back off of dating and stop letting herself get used, but I don't think that is going to happen :(  |
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Date: 7/4/2008 11:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
I hope I can understand her a bit :( It makes me sad that she didn't turn around and give that guy a piece of her mind. |
Date: 7/5/2008 2:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 13297
1)She has lust and love confused. 2)She has self-esteem issues 3)It sounds like she has abandonment issues. - I don't know how old she is but she may grow out of it. Perhaps she doesn't have anything else to occupy her time with and this gives her something to think about. Perhaps she also likes the attention she gets and is therefore addicted to the drama. Just some possible thoughts as I don't know her.  |
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Date: 7/5/2008 3:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 13297
Also as Aussie Girl said, people often look for in a partner what the found lacking from their parents or what they didn't get while they were growing up. It takes a lot of hard work and for some people lots of counseling to overcome this. |
Date: 7/5/2008 5:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
I think she just wants to be loved...and continuously looks for it....that and acceptance.  |
Date: 7/5/2008 5:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
people like this make me insane... what's wrong with being "uncoupled"?  |
Date: 7/5/2008 5:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
The sad part is that she probably won't find "the one" she's looking for until she gives up on musical boyfriends and stays single for awhile.  |
Date: 7/5/2008 6:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 37101
The others all ready nailed it. Her "need" to be in a relationship is an insecurity issue. It's a self-defeating cycle, though, because her lack of decent relationships with only accelerate her self-esteem issues. -  |
Date: 7/5/2008 8:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
I know many like this....cant live with out a guy in thier life, no matter good or bad shes always got someone and is so in love with whoever it is....an shes the one who always ends up hurt. just be her friend....its all you can do.  |
Date: 7/5/2008 8:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 63026
I can't stand clingy girls or the girls who crave drama.  |
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Date: 7/5/2008 10:22:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Majic, she does have lust and love confused. Even after being used for someone's lust over and over again she still thinks that that is the way to get someone to love you. I think her having a lot of time makes it even worse, but it was still bad even when she had a job and was going to school. Oh, and she loooooves the attention, even though it's not the kind of attention anybody should like. Thanks for your thoughts :) |
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Date: 7/5/2008 10:24:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
I don't know Mercury, they treat being single as being tantamount to death. It confuses me. |
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Date: 7/5/2008 10:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Silent Civilain, I agree completely. I've tried to tell her that she is only hurting herself with losers, but she keeps on doing it. It's like a viscious, disgusting cycle. |
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Date: 7/5/2008 10:27:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Appirition, I do try to be a good friend, it's just sometimes I wish I could smack some sense into her lol. I feel bad because sometimes I do get frustrated with her and her unstable relationships. |
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Date: 7/5/2008 10:30:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Beags, well, she's been single for about 5 days now. I know this is bad of me to hope, but I hope that she runs out of people to date, atleast for 6 months or so. I know that isn't going to happen, seeing as she'll ask anybody and everybody out (I'm not exaggerating on that one). |
Date: 7/5/2008 10:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
Yes it is sad really when you think about it, and note that they will tell you that they have met their soul mate????seems that everyone they get involved with was their soul mate...so sad!!!  |
Date: 7/5/2008 12:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 56359
If it's who I think it is, you know what I think. I will say that I'm happy (in a way) to hear that your calling her 'friend' :) She's going to benifit from that a great deal... you know... the same positive effect you had on me, because I get to call you friend :)h  |
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Date: 7/5/2008 2:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Zema yeah, every person she gets involved with is her 'soulmate'. After awhile I wonder how many soulmates you can have?? |
Date: 7/5/2008 5:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 21764
yeah that's whack... *hugs*  |
