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Date: 11/13/2000 6:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 18739
Sounds very serious. Do your parents know what is going on? How old are you? I would still report it to the police because that way there wil always be a record of what happened when. |
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Date: 11/13/2000 6:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 18739
Sounds very serious. Do your parents know what is going on? How old are you? I would still report it to the police because that way there will always be a record of what happened when. |
Date: 11/13/2000 7:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 13297
I would suggest writing a very explicit, well thought out, articulate letter to your ex stating your feelings and that you no longer wish to have any kind of contact whatsoever with him. If he continues you will have a paper copy for your own records as well (make sure to date it). When ever he leaves notes on the lawn, I would put them in an envelope and mail them back to him with a note that states that you no longer wish him to be a part of your life. If none of this works - TELL THE POLICE - your parents or some authority figure you trust. This is called STALKING and really may not be as innocent as you think. At least you would have paper copies stating your disenchantment with this guy and a formal report filed with the police in case he did go mental and try something. Make sure that you are in no way sending off vibes that give him the indication you are interested (and I'm not saying you are). It is just very important that he know how you feel on the matter and that you are absolutely clear about it. Good luck, I wish you the well, I'm sure it will work itself out but if it doesn't you need to tell someone like the police that can help you - or maybe try to get a restraining order. cheers, eimaj...  |
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Date: 11/13/2000 7:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 19126
I have had a problem like this also. I am not sure if things differ from city to city but when I had this problem the police could not really help me. I could call them if I see him waiting for me and they can make him leave but they can not do anything more than that. I had to get a restraining order put out on him. You have to know his address and full name and you can get him out of your life. If he comes by you he will be arrested. I believe that this is the steps you should take. The man seems a little out of his mind. Do yourself a favor and your boyfriend by getting a restraining order. I'll pray for you. Fill us in on what happens. Jazlynn |
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Date: 11/13/2000 7:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 19726
Why don't you just tell him you don't want to contact him? Not all guys are as in tune with the female mind as you might think. I had a similar situation and it didn't stop until I told him "I have moved on and I do not want to be friends." Since he has not caused you harm yet, maybe try this before going to the police. I agree with you that they may not take your case since this seems like harmless puppy love. Good luck lady! - Livvie |
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Date: 11/13/2000 7:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 18739
Wow, this may seem to be harmless puppy love to some but not to all. No one really knows what is going on in his mind. Tell him, firmly and clearly, you do not want this. If he continues, go to the police. |
Date: 11/13/2000 7:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 13061
believe me, its better that you do go to the police. when i first saw the post title, i thought "garlic and crosses" as a joke. definatly go to the cops. what have your parents said?  |
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Date: 11/13/2000 8:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 12959
you know, maybe he really just want to be friend, I don't undrstand why people always think the worst about others, you should let him know, and if it doesn't work then take igger mesure, if you go to the police now, he will have that case sticking at him for the rest of is life when the only thing he wanted was to be nice, 'cos he care for you. tell him before trying to do annything else. CiD |
Date: 11/14/2000 5:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 15159
you are wise with what you are saying. i think you know what to do.  |
Date: 11/14/2000 6:41:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11367
Thank you guys for offering your advices. To generally answer your qns, I am 23 yrs old, have a nice boyfriend of 3 yrs by my side, and my parents have no clue abt this. They are aware that he has been sending me gifts since we broke off and they just laugh it off. I have been telling some close friends regarding this matter and if anything happens to me, at least they have the story to tell. I can't go to the police yet 'cos he has not harmed or threatened me. I have no evidence of him loitering around my neighbourhood. The police can't take my report. As for the comment by CiD above ^^^, I know he is pretty harmless and I hope he stays that way. I also wouldn't want him to leave a record with the police, but if things get out of hand, I have to be firm. --- /*ck*\  |
Date: 11/14/2000 10:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 17156
listen to your bf and go to the police this guy may seem harmless but he is stalking you, do not make contact with this person there is no telling what he can do to harm you or to make you his again. i went through the same thing with my first bf and am very thankful that i finally went to the police or he could still be doing that today. i wish you the best of luck and hope you make the right decision ~sweetvixen~  |
Date: 11/15/2000 9:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 20104
This guy sounds like he will never get over you. You may think he is harmless, but hes not. He hasnt done anything to you yet, but obsessed people can do crazy things. I think you should notify the police of the situation and make sure your parents always know where you are. He could kidnap you and/or do other terrible things. Be careful. Jamie  |
Date: 11/18/2000 1:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 11756
Well I think that you should try to talk to him and tell him to leave you alone and if that doesn't work then you need to go to the police and get a restraining order against him because he sounds like a real creep...White Lightning  |
