Date: 2/11/2001 6:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 19435
hmm, well for this one I shall have to search into my "memories" file bank :-) ..but one thing I thing I think is that when the romance seems to go stale in a relationship then new means of sparking it again are needed...doing something different, spontaneously...things you may never have done, or little things you use to do but have not in a while. You know, something special for her that she would not expect you would do or plan, to get the sparkle back in her eyes, and yours :-)  |
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Date: 2/11/2001 6:57:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 26527
Breezy,yes that I know but I think I am looking more for a "suggestion from women" I don`t think I understand them and I would like to get a deeper look inside what makes them "tick" I think understanding is the key. Osa |
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Date: 2/11/2001 7:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 19435
well,,, I am a woman, but I suspect you are seeking more directness in a responce...but one thing that is needed to be remembered, We are not all the same...To understand us is to understand the individuality of each women in her own right. Once that has occurred, understanding the woman in your life, through seeking out her special needs and desires, then you will be able to proceed to the romantic nature of things that you both will understand and enjoy. JMO...good luck to you both in your relationship, wish ya the best! |
Date: 2/11/2001 7:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 17795
only if the content is of good taste and if there is a warning at the top stating what is contained in the story, then people have the choice whether they read it or not
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Date: 2/11/2001 7:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 16442
Well Osa, i think ALL women like to be cuddled and told they are beautiful. I think noticing little things, like the way she's been doing her hair or how good those new jeans look make a woman feel 'special', if it is said with honesty. For me personally, thats where intimacy starts, if I do not feel attractive and 'special' to my partner then I am quite content to live in the same house and go through the motions of marriage while in my heart only feeling friendship. Does that make sense??? LOL ~MOONPRIESTESS~  |
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Date: 2/11/2001 7:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 27095
i really dont no |
Date: 2/11/2001 7:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 21320
Im useless I dont even understandmy own mind half the time.....SV  |
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Date: 2/11/2001 7:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 27036
You have to be extremely tender, touch her so gently and caress her cheek with your hand in a manner as though if you pressed in too much you just might break her. Be understanding in a seductive manner (how do you do that you might ask?) Cuddle up to her on the couch or wherever and wrap your arms around her and talk to her while gazing off into her eyes and give her that sweet charming smile and just softly kiss her every now and then...be tender and her own personal hero! |
Date: 2/11/2001 7:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 18201
well....my husband and I found ourselves in a slump recently. This may sound corny, but we wrote love letters back and forth through email and it eally sparked things up again. We took it one step further and started writing a sort of "romance novel", (back and forth through email as well). He would read what I wrote and vice versa...We also have an excellent level of communication and are very adventurous. Sometimes, you just need to experimant to find new things that you both enjoy. Try new things and communicate. You should be just fine :) Good Luck  |
Date: 2/11/2001 8:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 10534
Ummm I don't know. sorry..luv always,  |
Date: 2/11/2001 8:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
we could always respond by sending a private msg. through the profile. that way the kids can't read anything they don't need to.  |
Date: 2/11/2001 9:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 3204
I have a bit of advice for the men...don't just GRAB at your woman and expect her to be turned on by that! Start slow. Be gentle. Whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Light a candle. Buy some roses. Even if you have been together for a million years, she still wants to be wooed...  |
Date: 2/11/2001 10:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 18781
I think that the most impotant thing is to understand your partner and her needs. In any relationship it is important that both people try and be giving......yes even in bed. I would love for my hubby to be more romantic. Plan a perfect evening and surprise me. Every women I think likes to feel special. I try to tell mine that if things are more romantic outside of the bedroom then things would be more romantic inside the bedroom. Try a candle light dinner,soft music, run her a bubble bath, make it like one of those movies. Best wishes. Aester  |
Date: 2/11/2001 10:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 20750
ok dude here it is start with a hot bubble bath and a bottle of wine then a romantic dinner in whatever sexy clothes then watch a romantic movie like the Titanic then light candels and play romantic music and dance dance fast and then slow I love this kind of night!!!!LOL Moon Girl  |
Date: 2/11/2001 10:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 582
May I ask if you two ever have time to do things "apart" from each other? Do you both get adaquate time to explore hobbies or outside entertainment or excerise on an individual basis? I know that I need to do things with just myself and sometimes with other friends apart from my mate. That way when we are together we have different experiences to explore. I strongly believe, that even though we think of marriage as being One with our lovers, that we must first stand on our own to survive. Don't worry about what the other is doing. Know that if you have a top notch relationship with yourself everything else will fall into place. I love men I don't have to entertain. (here's a common tip: Be yourself, express yourself and go slow in bed...wink)  |
Date: 2/11/2001 4:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 22992
I am not exactly sure  |
Date: 2/12/2001 5:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 20873
you could start dating again. It has help us tremendously. Just start going to the movies alone, dinner alone, lunch breaks together alone, I am not going to even get intot he sex issue because that becomes later.... remember your dating first. lol Good Luck to you hope it all works out. DINA  |
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Date: 2/14/2001 11:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 26527
You know, I am quite impressed with all the answers. It seems that there are primarily women and the conversation was held in a very mature manner. Don`t get mad but, truth be told my wife and I are "animals" we do just fine. I really was just looking to see the type of people "maturity level" I am dealing with here and I can`t stress the point that I am impressed that there hasn`t bean one dirty comment. I think that alot of men would benifit by just "going slow" It took me a while to figure that one out. For a man its pretty easy to be turned on and to climax but I have found that women really do not climax without a decent amount of foreplay which in itself is so satisfying most of the time. Foreplay, touching in areas that you would never think, things like this are so important to woman and I think that you women that have written here should spread the word to some of the men here and let them read all about just what it is that there ladies would like and maybe the world won`t be such a mad place! The E-mail suggestion is one that I haven`t tried however, it sounds like it could be a bit fun. Thank you for that and I will E-mail my wife at work tommorrow. Sorry to you all if you take offence but I just wanted to prove that "sex" doesn`t have to be a "dirty" topic. Osa |
Date: 2/15/2001 12:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 8717
I think "dating" each other is a good start. Maybe then you could go back to good 'ol frenzied making out and rediscover each other again. Just one idea  |
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Date: 2/15/2001 8:54:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 26527
Rediscovery through dating,Thats a good idea. It sounds as if it may be fun. You`d have to do sometype of a role play though wouldn`t you? Anymore? Osa. |
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Date: 2/16/2001 11:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 20873
um , we just started out slow I mean you can't rush things,it will not work, trust me we've been like untogether for a while now and we just started dating togeher. We still live in the same house an stuff just we just go the the movies and hold hands then dine out, even if I have alittle grocery shopping I wait till he gets back from work and we go together.Since SEX at this time is not an issue it really brings you closer together in other ways. My object is to bring us together w/o the kids w/o the family w/o anybody just us.Didnt we do that before we were married ??? I guess majority would say yea . Although I must say I have kinda of a unique situtation about my status. So this may or may not help you. You are welcome to contact me. DINA |
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Date: 2/16/2001 11:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 20873
oopps that wasnt my question sorry!!!!!!!!lol,lol I am so embarassed!! but hope it helps anyway. DINA |
Date: 2/17/2001 1:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 17156
My hubby and I tried role playing kinda like an acting skit. I would write up a character profile that was like me in many ways and he would do the same. We would change small things like our jobs or something like that, to make things interesting. I don't know other than that I did see some really good suggestions here though :) Good Luck!! Love,  |
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Date: 2/26/2001 7:39:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 26527
these are all terrific ideas! I love it. Can we keep up this topic with the same level of maturity? Osa |
Date: 4/28/2001 8:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 30097
the topic of it shouldn'y be thought of as bad  |
