When you go through life challenges, you may discover that certain areas of your life are no longer working. You're out on a limb getting shaken up. Sometimes, you're so caught up in your situation that you even lose sight of your dreams.
While you may not be able to choreograph all the outer situations in your life and make the dance exactly as you want, you can at least decide to choreograph your response to them. As part of this, you can begin to move away from what's not working in your life and to move instead in the direction you want to go. I have a three list process, originally inspired by a process I learned from Unity minister and author Catherine Ponder, which can help you do this.
List number one. What do you now choose to eliminate from your life?
Many times, when you experience a sudden or major transition, you notice what hasn't been working in your life. This is an occasion to grab hold and make some positive changes. Maybe you don't even have a choice. You have to change to respond to what's occurring in your life.
During this time, ask yourself what you would like to let go of in your life. List it in this first list. Include everything-from the most mundane item, like the clutter in your closet, to the most cosmic, like self-judgment, self-hatred or friendlessness-whatever conditions you are ready to release. You can even include health conditions. Your heart and soul will know everything that belongs on this list.
Why doing this list can be helpful is because setting the intention to eliminate and actually eliminating what doesn't work in your life makes space for what does. Nature abhors a vacuum. As soon as you get rid of those things, new good can come in.
When you complete the list, you then help empower the process by including this written statement at the end:
I thank these for the growth they've given me. I now release them, and they release me to my own highest good.
Making a huge list of everything you want to eliminate from your life can be somewhat intimidating. When, however, you thank what you're letting go of for the growth it's provided, you're essentially saying that you let go of the condition, but you choose to keep the growth and learning you've received. You're not letting go of everything. Some of you recognize what those gifts and learning have been. Others may not consciously know. You may find it beneficial to take some time as part of this to think about and write down what gifts and learning you've received from even the most difficult life challenges that you're hoping to release.
This statement is also important, because if you keep identifying what you don't want, you often become hypnotized by it. Writing "I release them" is the gesture of open hands saying "I let it go." By releasing your hold or fixation on them, they release you, too.
List number two. What do I now choose to manifest in my life? (bring into my life, create in my life-You choose the words that feel best)
This list encompasses everything that you want your life to include-once more from the most mundane to more expansive things. It can include things like positive attitudes, feeling states, and health. It can include situations like financial support and the types of relationships you want. Use the first list to help direct you. For example, if you write on the first list: "I now eliminate friendships or people that are toxic," you might write on the second list, "I now draw into my life friendships that meet me on a soul level, where we are healing for each other, and we grow together."
Relationships are an important factor to consider on this list because your life challenge may be inviting you to change the whole context of your life, and this second list can help you identify and focus on the types of people who can assist you in leaping forward into your next stage of greater well-being. You also need support during life challenges, so if you're letting go of draining relationships or lack of relationships on the first list, you might ask to draw in supportive contacts and friends on the second list.
Let this second list be wildly imaginative. Say what you really want, even though it seems unlikely you'll get it.
I've found time and time again, that when I or my clients put something on a list, it very often does happen. As a result, you have to be careful what you wish for and be fairly specific. It may be unwise to write simply: "I want to fall in love." A better approach would be: "I want to be in a loving relationship with someone who is really good for me and where I'm really good for them."
There may be some instances where you know what you want to let go of, but you don't exactly know with what you want to replace it. For example, you want to leave your current job, but you don't know what job you want next. Instead of writing down the specific work you want on your second list, consider the qualities or circumstances surrounding a job that you'd enjoy: What do you want to feel about your work? Do you want to feel glad to get up in the morning and go there? Do you want to feel like you can be yourself all day long? Do you want to feel at ease with your co-workers, manager and customers? Do you want to feel that you're receiving adequate money for your needs? Writing down the tenor of what you want, even when you don't know the specifics can still help draw something wonderful to you.
This list has an ending statement to empower the process, too:
May this or something better come to me through no harm to anyone and for the greater good of all concerned.
The "something better" is important because, at the same time you think you know what you'd like to have happen with your limited human awareness, the universe (spirit, god, higher power) might have an even better idea that you haven't thought of yet. You want to stay open to that greater will.
The second half of the statement-"through no harm to anyone and for the greater good of all concerned"-says that, as you generate your own greater good, you have a true desire that no one be harmed in the process and that you want your good to include greater good for the whole. We can feel positive when we receive what we want, because we ask that there be blessings in it for others as well. In addition, many of us don't feel worthy to have something good for ourselves, but when we affirm it in a way that's for the greater good, we relax and allow it, and it does indeed then bless others, which blesses us again
PEACE & LOVE~~~~~~~ JUST ME~~~~~~ MS. B ~~~~~~~~~~
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